Vera Wang has opened up about the breakdown of her marriage to Arthur Becker, saying, “We were like the original ‘When Harry Met Sally.’ ” In a “Fashion Icons” discussion with Fern Mallis hosted by the 92nd Street Y and Martini Sparkling Wines, Wang said despite their separation after 23 years, she remains very close to Becker, with whom she has two daughters, Cecilia and Josephine. Vera referred to Arthur as “my husband,” telling Mallis, “He is someone that will always be in my life.” Their shocking split last July led to speculation that he would have to leave his role as an adviser to her wildly successful business. But Wang — likening their relationship to the iconic couple played by Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal who worried sex would ruin their longtime friendship in the 1989 Nora Ephron romantic comedy — told Mallis, “He’s never not been a part of the business.” She also dashed chatter of an affair with Olympic skater Evan Lysacek, which was sparked when he stayed at her Beverly Hills mansion last summer, branding it a “rumor” and adding she was just his mentor. Wang, who wed Becker at 39, had previously described herself as “the girl nobody thought would ever get married,” confessing she used to “live” in the Vogue closet and at Studio 54. She explained, “I couldn’t get a husband, but I could get into a nightclub.” When she went into business for herself, she said a big turning point was the 2005 CFDA Awards when she won “Womenswear Designer of the Year.” Wang explained, “My daughters did not come. I didn’t want them to cry if I lost like they did when Michelle Kwan lost at the Olympics. But I was sitting next to Anna Wintour, and she said, ‘Get your daughters here . . . I don’t sit with losers.’ She didn’t know I was going to win, no, but she had a very good feeling it was my moment. And it was a moment. That was my moment. She actually sent for my children to come, it was the nicest thing.”