Don’t talk to Gwyneth! That was the directive to all press ahead of a Women in Film pre-Oscar party Gwyneth Paltrow co-hosted at Cecconi’s West Hollywood Thursday. Along with RSVP confirmations came a “friendly reminder that . . . [Paltrow] will not be speaking with press inside.” But the tight-lipped star was seen chatting happily to mom Blythe Danner, Viola Davis and Octavia Spencer. Estee Lauder’s John Demsey also attended the Perrier-Jouët fete.