It was one, big, happy extended family at East Side Social Club on Thanksgiving Eve when Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith arrived after seeing “West Side Story” with a group of 14, including Melanie’s mother, Tippi Hedren, of “The Birds” and “Marnie” fame, plus a mind-boggling assortment of children from Don Johnson, Patti D’Arbanville and Terry Quinn, the firefighter friend — and former partner — of the restaurant’s owners, Billy Gilroy and Patrick Fahey. Banderas, who had missed breakfast and lunch, ordered two entrees and finished them both.